Sacred Union in time of death
House of Tantra · 10 November 2021
The ecstatic path of mystical sexuality has a hidden face, or rather what lies beneath its soft skin: bones and yawning, dead eye sockets. Two skulls frozen in a timeless kiss, skeletons embracing each other in a deadly embrace, reminding us of the impermanence and elusiveness of life. One of the ego’s fundamental fears is the fear of disappearing and dissolving in space.
By witnessing our life passing, we can be more open to letting go of what needs to die in us. During meditation practice, we can gradually teach our body that ego dissolution, the disappearance of identification, is not associated with physical death. Inhale – appearing, exhale – disappearing. In this way, here and now, we will transcend our conditioning around death. Accompanying some parts of our ego in gradual dying out.
For most people, death is associated with the inevitable end, with the pain of leaving those we love. It somehow connects with the dark and cold empty space, with illnesses and the terrible smell of decaying body. Many people may have such experience. However, our death may be quite different.
Sexual energy is the cause of our conception and appearance in the physical body. Through the union of the masculine and feminine aspects, life is created. Sexuality also plays a major role in the process of dying and the separation of the soul from the physical body.
As we approach the end of our lives, after taking our last breath, the red essence from the mother, located at the level of the sacral chakra, begins to move towards the heart chakra. At the same time, the white essence, coming from the father, slowly descends from the area of the pineal gland. At some point, the two essences merge together at the center of the heart chakra. We are going through a kind of internal implosion, merging with the absolute dimension of existence. The union of our feminine and masculine essences triggers an ecstasy of cosmic power.
Our death is nothing but the most powerful orgasm in life.
Tantric yogis spend their lives preparing for this very moment. To fully open at the moment of death to the infinite bliss of the union of female and male essences in the heart. Experience illumination and spiritual self-realization.
Unprepared, we are unable to withstand such a dose of bliss and we lose consciousness at the beginning of the process. Just like with premature ejaculation, before we start, we’re done. When we finally regain consciousness, we’ve been dead for a few days and only later do we realize we’ve left the body.
For adepts of mystical sexuality, each sensation can be recognized as the sacred union of the feminine and masculine. Any movement of energy can become a spark of orgasmic bliss that fills the entire body.
Our old identities and blocking beliefs stand in the way of experiencing sacred sexuality. Everything that causes attachment to difficult experiences from the past, how we perceive ourselves and our sexuality.
But everything will change if we let them go.
From the traditional point of view of Tibetan Buddhism, there are three types of death:
1. A little death is dying every moment to be reborn again in each moment. It is like small steps into a big death.
2. Big death – disappearance of identity – ego. It is the result of the development of our consciousness, which at the final stage of its evolution is ready to melt with its source.
3. Illusory death or death of the body, associated with constant change and transformation of relative reality.
THE PROCESS OF DYING ACCORDING TO THE TEXTS OF THE TRADITION OF TIBETAN BUDDHISM
Stage I: The Earth element dissolves in Water.
Slowing body movements down to the supine position decreases the ability to see and recognize shapes. Clarity of mind is lost. Inner confusion intensifies. Uncoordinated, chaotic body movements, cold limbs and sensitive to stimuli, eyes sink deeper. Energy moves back from the periphery to the center of the body. The body becomes heavy. A mind open to receiving.
Recommendations:
Remind yourself of your life successes and contributions to others. Consciously say goodbye to loved ones and friends and show them gratitude, thank them.
Stage II: The element of Water dissolves in the element of Fire.
Increased thirst. without being extinguished. Anger and quarrelsomeness escalate. Senses: Hearing and the ability to speak and think clearly are impaired. Internal fluids are leaking. Consciousness is already in the center of the body – in the main channel. We stop understanding.
Stage III: Fire merges with Air.
Body cooling, cold. Breathing becomes more irregular. It’s getting harder to breathe. ( Death Rattle ) The last portion of warmth felt in the heart.
Stage IV: Air melts into Space.
Like a drowning man trying to get air. There is a strong fear, because there is an awareness of the coming end. The rebellion of the body trying one last fight, because the body’s job is to survive. ( Convulsions ) The last ties with life are breaking. Connections with people are still very strong.
The last moments are filled with three long exhalations followed by no inhalation. ( Heart stops beating )
DISPLACEMENT OF ENERGY AND CONSCIOUSNESS
Masculine energy: liberation from anger.
The white male energy from the father’s semen, which is located at the top of the head during life, descends down the central channel to the heart. It takes about 10-15 minutes. Metabolic processes in the brain freeze, which leads to its death. The consciousness of the deceased, surrounded by a soft light similar to moonlight, has the sensation of moving through a tunnel towards something infinitely beautiful, or perceives a white glow. Haang sound. Consciousness is fully awake. The sense of time dissolves.
It reminds you of your whole life (backwards) in 5 minutes as in a sped-up movie.
Feelings and memories of anger and hatred dissolve. On the way to the heart, we relive and rework important relationships. Forgiving.
The white light reaches the level of the heart. Deep clarity is experienced as the male essence descends into the heart.
Feminine energy: liberation from attachment.
The red light from the fertilized mother’s egg cell is released from the lower abdomen (and within 10-15 minutes) reaches the central channel to the level of the heart. During this time, we experience a deep bliss that surpasses anything that was possible in life.
There is a poignantly beautiful warm red light similar to a captivating sunset that moves upwards.
We hear the syllable A.
Liberation from attachments. The mind frees itself from its strongest attachment – clinging to its own body. All attachments to a former life, desire for worldly happiness, and relationships built with people, places, and experiences disappear. End of expectations.
Union of masculine and feminine energies in the heart.
Actual death. External signs of death: stiffening of the corpse, rain spots, irreversible loss of myocardial function, 20-30 minutes after clinical death. All experiences cease and only awareness remains. (The 7 veils of ignorance disappear.)
Everything turns black and silence falls. This darkness is the real separation from this life. The state of emptiness, the state of zero. Shorter than previous energy flows and ends when the mind lights up.
Space dissolves – it merges with bright light.
Individual consciousness dissolves into light. In the case of practicing adepts, the opportunity to experience the true nature of mind – enlightenment, awakening, experiencing your true nature, freeing yourself from clinging to all previous experiences.
In the case of an unprepared person, it occurs loss of consciousness.